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Is your promising relationship a life partnership?
If you’re unsure, which part hangs you up more: the life, or the partnership?
Life Part·ner·shipn.:Taking on the world together (instead of each other).
The life part is a choice. There’s no wrong answer, just two very different life paths. That’s what makes it hard.
“…that’s what led me to, yes, this is my person. My intuition has been screaming yes, but my checklists were afraid, and I’m really glad I listened…”
Kristen Struble
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“Honestly, it was the greatest act of love we could have done, was to end the relationship.”
Nicholette Routhier
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“I felt like we had a really beautiful process of ending of our relationship. And then, you know, now, a couple years after we broke up, my partner’s actually married. She’s very happy, and I could not be more happy for her.”
Toku McCree
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The partnership part is a skill, one most of us weren’t taught. The best relationships require you to be fully, uncompromisingly yourselves while learning to partner well with each other. And that’s what makes it hard.
“There was just more space for both of us to appreciate how we were different… and celebrate how we were different and then come into more collaboration from that place…”
Jesse Johnson Chandra
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I’m Ken Blackman. For over 25 years I’ve been helping couples align, forgive, bond, and thrive.
If you’re committed, with real skin in the game, I offer personalized coaching to make your partnership a wellspring, not a sinkhole.
“…the amount of joy that comes from having a good relationship with my partner, I mean, it’s just… immeasurably valuable.”
Joe Carr
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If life partnership itself is where you’re not aligned, I offer a commitment clarity program called No Regret to help you decide how to move forward.
Results.
Flourishing relationship
“I feel like we're one of the most joyful couples the planet has ever known.”
Jesse Johnson Chandra
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“If we fight about something, we bring it to Ken. And most of the time, we never fight about that thing again.”
Joe Carr
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“Having Ken in our corner was like waving a magic wand. Like, we instantly started understanding each other much better.”
Toku McCree
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“We're able to have conversations without getting triggered that we weren't able to have before.”
Alex Pursglove
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“He would slow me down, and translate what Jesse's trying to say. Then I learned to do it on my own.”
Kerel Srikala Chandra
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“We are so much better at communicating with each other, understanding each other, being generous with each other…”
Anonymous
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“…the amount of joy that comes from having a good relationship with my partner, I mean, it's just immeasurably valuable.”
Joe Carr
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“…we have pretty much the best relationship of anybody that I know…”
Anonymous
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Clarity / decision
“And that's what led me to, yes, this is my person. My intuition has been screaming yes, and I'm really glad I listened.”
Kristen Struble
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“…we ended up every single time—even if we had stuff to work on—feeling in partnership.”
Matt Thieleman
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“And that enabled us to make a really clear decision about what we wanted moving forward.”
Toku McCree
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“Honestly, it was the greatest act of love we could have done, was to end the relationship.”
Nicholette Routhier
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“Ken literally helped us transform our whole relationship. We learned a tremendous amount about ourselves and ended up married, quite happily.”
Jesse Johnson Chandra
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“…what I uncovered is that that partner wasn't the right partner for me at all, which is very helpful information. So I wasted a lot less time than usual.”
Gretchen Prins
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“So I left the relationship with power, with self trust, with sovereignty, and also on a path to become more and more honest with myself.”
Nicholette Routhier
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“We had a really beautiful process of ending our relationship… it allowed us to navigate a very difficult time and end up much better than either one of us could imagine.”
Toku McCree
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Ask the room
Questions couples ask.
How do I get my partner to understand me?
My partner is skeptical. Will they trust a coach I found?
Will he be fair to both of us?
Will he impose his values on us?
Is he going to push us to stay together?
I'm the one who's ready. Will coaching pressure my partner?
I've done a lot of personal work already. Will this tell me anything new?
How does he compare with other coaches?
Is it worth the money?
…he could take what I said and interpret it in a way that my partner could understand.
…I was ready to move towards engagement and to marriage, and she was a little hesitant.
I am a relationship and sovereignty coach.
…oh, these people just tell you what to do.
I think a good coach actually takes sides but takes both people's sides.
Ken has an incredible ability to meet people exactly where they are…
He's not attached to the outcome.
…Ken is probably the gold standard.
He's way too expensive for us.
Ken's superpower of supporting people…
…I had a lot of reserve.
…I had a major blind spot in the relationship.
…within 15 minutes of meeting Ken, she said, "Oh my gosh, this is the one."
…somehow manage to be an approval of both people at the same time…
…he's gonna help you get unstuck from a place of power and truth with yourself.
…we have one idea of what success is.
…I'm incredibly picky when it comes to coaches.
I was a little thrown off by the cost.
…that's how I could have said that.
…once I stopped pressuring and became more patient, she was allowed then to be in her own process.
I was actively creating something I didn't want.
I don't care what it takes. We need to hire him.
One of Ken's superpowers is we both always feel like he's on our side…
…no matter where your relationship is at or what is going on…
So whether you decide to stay together, whether you decide to break up…
I think second to none.
…we moved money around. And I would do that every single time again.
My husband would say, "Well, why didn't you just say that?" I was like, "I have been."
…that's what led me to, yes, this is my person.
…what if you just weren't in that funk anymore?
My wife was very skeptical.
You wanna feel like they can both listen to and advocate for both people…
There's no judgment.
…he is the perfect person to work with.
He's a wizard.
I want the best and we'll pay for the best…
…the actual messages that we're trying to send to each other…
I became empowered in the relationship through what Ken brought…
I was a hard no to, like, meeting with Ken for a long time.
…it wouldn't be either/or. And Ken does that beautifully.
He doesn't have a judgmental bone in his body.
…Ken's biggest gift to the world.
So I wasted a lot less time than usual.
And you have someone to translate it back to you…
…the really powerful finishing touches…
…who's this dude, and why should I tell you anything?
…just like the relationship is not a competition.
It feels really safe.
Ken is truly masterful at what he does…
It's better than I ever could have imagined.
…oh, that makes so much sense. That's the translation.
…I found myself speaking up for myself more, setting boundaries…
Even though I was the one that found him, she also felt like he was a great coach for us as well.
I believe that the big transformation was both of us feeling empowered.
He always had space for me.
Ken is one of the most brilliant humans and coaches that I've ever known…
So, ultimately, it was worth every penny.
And most of the time we never fight about that thing again.
…it was about me being able to trust him because he already did.
He meets me.
…stand for both of us being right even when we're seeing things really differently…
I love him so deeply, and I care for him.
…say them once and have our partner both really understand them.
There's nobody better than Ken on the market.
…I was so sold.
Ken is the most exquisite of all relationship coaches.
…that's the only kind of person that I wanna work with or be around.
